The Parenting Clubhouse Podcast Episode 50: Different Strategies for Following Directions for Different Ages

Hello, hello! Welcome to The Parenting Clubhouse Podcast! Can you believe this is the fourth and last episode of the “my child doesn’t follow directions” series? And how about it being the 50th episode?! Whoooooo! I know that learning a new parenting strategy can be tough, and we always want to know how we can get our children to listen in different scenarios and environments. So today I’m going to give you loads of examples for how you can get your kids to listen. I’m talking different ages of kids, different scenarios, and when in different environments. 

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Now back to the episode!

Since this is our last episode in the series, let’s do a quick recap of the last three episodes:

  1. Not having a strategy, or having an effective strategy leads to trouble. Our children are going to continue not following our directions if we don’t do something different that works. 
  2. We have to understand “why” our children are not following our directions. Is it because they don’t understand? They don’t hear us? They are too focused or distracted by a project or TV? Do they lack the motivation to follow our instructions? 
  3. We can use the tell - show - do strategy to get our children to follow our directions. We first give a clear instruction. If they don’t follow, we can show them what we mean. If they still don’t complete the instruction, we can guide them to complete the instruction. 

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There are a few things we want to keep in mind when we are addressing following directions with our children, regardless of age, scenario, or environment. We always want to remain calm and provide a clear instruction. If our child is being defiant or sassy, we need to avoid feeding into that negativity. If possible, it’s a good idea to make eye contact with our child when delivering the instruction. Consistency is key; if we want this strategy to work, we have to be consistent with it. And we need to be aware of our child’s “why” so we can address any problems. 

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If we are implementing tell-show-do with our young kiddos (think of ages 2-8), there are a few things we want to keep in mind. We are teaching them so much when we are using this strategy. We may be teaching them a new skill or teaching them to follow our directions. It’s really important to praise our children for following directions so they keep doing it in the future! And when we are using tell-show-do, it’s important to repeat our instruction as we move through the steps to help our child learn better. 

For our older kiddos (think of ages 9-13), we want to remain calm even if our moody child isn’t calm. Adding any negativity will only escalate the problem and fan the flame. We can also praise our older children for following directions, but in a different way. For example, we can say, “I really appreciate you putting your dishes in the sink.” or “Thank you for putting your dishes in the dishwasher. That really helps me out.” And keep in mind that it’s okay to use rewards to help out, like if our kids don’t like doing their chores or following a routine. 

When in different scenarios or different environments, it’s important to continue to be consistent and to implement the procedures as planned. If you’re worried about what other parents may think, I bet they will notice that you are implementing a very specific and strategic technique, and they’ll be impressed! 

I hope you enjoyed these four episodes all about getting your children to follow directions. My goal for you is to take these four episodes and get moving! Decide today that you’re going to work on following directions with your kiddos, use the info in the episodes to help you, and go do it! But if you need a little help, the Regain Control of Your Child’s Behavior courses is a PERFECT resource to help you accomplish your goals by using specific positive strategies. And don’t forget about the giveaway! Check out the course at, and be sure to tell your friends about the giveaway!  

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