Performance goals at work. Check.
Financial goals for your family. Check.
Relationship goals with your spouse. Check.
Health and fitness goals at home. Check.
Whether we realize it or not, our daily lives are filled with goals. At work. At home. With our money. For our relationships. For our personal development.
Have you ever thought about having parenting goals? Why not?
If being a parent is one of the MOST IMPORTANT jobs we will ever have, why is it that we have never thought about having parenting goals?
Maybe you do! If that is the case, you are the upper hand to the rest of the world.
How is it that we have goals for everything else in our lives, yet we have never thought about setting goals for THE most important thing in our life?
I don’t think that I need to make the argument that parenting is important, that it’s no-joke. If you’re a parent, you are well aware of that fact.
I do feel the need to make the argument for why setting goals in our parenting is important.
We all want to be the best parents we can be for our children, and being the best parents we can be for our children will not look the same. Each of our children are unique, therefore, our parenting styles won’t look the same. Yet, we have a common goal: to be the best parent for our children.
We read the magazines, buy the books, listen to the podcasts, and search the internet for all the info on how to be the best parent. Read to your children at an early age. Don’t spank. Talk to your children. Praise your children. Let your children make choices. Have your children try new foods.
We receive all of this valuable information on a daily basis. We read, we listen, we take it in, but let’s be honest, it stops there. We read, we listen, we take it in. We KNOW that the advice is true, we THINK the advice is a good thing to do, and we may even TRY the advice out for a day… but usually, that’s it. We stop there.
Instead, how about setting some actionable parenting goals?!
It’s good to read out loud to your children on a daily basis, so how about setting a goal for that? I will read to my child each day for 5 minutes. Or, I will read two children’s books to my child every day.
We know that it’s important to speak encouraging words to our kiddos. How would our lives and our children’s lives change if that became our goal? I will praise my child five times each day.
We also know that our children are sponges and they model just about everything we do... and we sometimes model bad habits for our kids. Instead of yelling when I’m angry, I will take deep breaths to calm down and then speak calmly.
Setting goals is not hard. If we REALLY want to change our parenting and IMPROVE our parenting, then it’s high time we set some goals for ourselves to put that in motion. We don’t have to be perfect, we just need to get the ball rolling.
Step beyond your parenting comfort zone and set a goal for yourself.
Make sure it’s a goal that you want to do, a goal in which you have some motivation behind.
Write the goal down where you can see it numerous times throughout the day.
Set reminders on your phone so you don’t forget.
Think about having another parent act as an accountability partner.
Lastly, make sure that the goal you set for yourself is attainable. Set yourself up for success, not failure.
The rest of our lives have goals. Isn’t it time that we set some goals to improve our parenting? It doesn’t have to be huge, just a small step in the right direction.
What would you change about your parenting? What goal will you set for yourself?