The Parenting Clubhouse Podcast Episode 45: Why Does My Child Behave Differently at School?

behavior podcast school Jan 21, 2020

Hello there and welcome to The Parenting Clubhouse Podcast! Have you ever wondered why your child behaves differently, and maybe more appropriately, at school or daycare than she does at home? It’s frustrating, isn’t it, to hear that your child is an angel at school - following directions, being a good example to other students, and sharing with peers - but then have your child act like a holy terror at home - not following directions, not getting along with siblings, and being really sassy. Today I want to share one reason for why your child may behave differently at school or daycare. Be sure to check out my Regain Control of Your Child’s Behavior course! Let’s jump in! 

For some of us, our children may behave really appropriately at school or daycare and behave not so appropriately at home. For those of you with preschoolers and young kiddos, at daycare your child may get along with peers, may share and take turns, and may help their peers, but at home, your child may fight with siblings, hog toys, and be not so positive toward her siblings. For those of you with school-aged children, at school your child may follow the classroom rules, follow the teacher’s directions, is pleasant to be around, and is the class helper, but at home, your child may not follow your directions, may disobey you, and may be overall nasty and have a bad attitude. 

When we are dealing with a not so pleasant child at home, we may feel like we are doing something wrong, especially if our child is well-behaved at school. We may also feel embarrassed about our child’s behavior. We may feel like a bad parent for not getting our kid under control. And we may also feel guilty that we can’t get our child to behave at home, especially if they can be well-behaved at school.  

There could be a reason for why your child behaves well at school but not at home. Actually, there could be lots of reasons for this. I highly suggest you check out episode 13 which is all about what the environment has to do with your child’s behavior. This episode will shed a lot of light into how different environments can affect your child’s behavior. 

Like I said, one reason for why your child behaves appropriately at school may be that the teacher is using really effective tools, strategies, routines and schedules that help make your child really successful in the classroom. As parents, we may not be using these same tools and strategies. Thus, I highly suggest comparing and contrasting the strategies that the teacher implements at home and the strategies that you implement at home to see how you can help your child at home. 

To get some immediate strategies for adding routine and structure at home, download my 3 Tips & Tricks freebie where I give you three positive strategies that you can begin implementing today! 

Aside from investigating what strategies your child’s teacher is using, especially if you’re ready for loads of new strategies to begin implementing now, check out my Regain Control of Your Child’s Behavior course! The course includes 5 modules, all with different strategies, and a workbook for each module to help you begin incorporating these strategies at home.

As I said before, there could be lots of reasons for why our child behaves well at school but not at home, and actually, the opposite could be true. Our child may behave well at home but not behave well at school. 

But what it all comes down to is strategy. What strategies are helping your child be successful at home or at school? Let’s begin using those strategies that work for our child so we can move away from all of the negativity, not following directions, and tantrums, and move towards a positive home with less disobedience and more rule following. Again, check out my Regain Control of Your Child’s Behavior course to learn loads of new strategies to help you create that peaceful home! 

And get pumped for The Parenting Clubhouse Podcast in February, when I’ll be talking all about how to handle when our children don’t follow directions! 

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